386 | Adulthood Bias and Piaget: Why Adults Misunderstand Children

Episode summary

In this episode, I revisit the concept of Adulthood Bias and explain why it continues to show up so frequently in how adults interact with children. At its core, Adulthood Bias is the tendency to forget what it's like to be a child—emotional, present-focused, and without the capacity for abstract reasoning—and instead expect children to think and respond like adults. I connect this idea back to Piaget's developmental stages to show that this isn't just a perspective shift—it's grounded in what we know about how children actually develop.

I also walk through how Adulthood Bias plays out in everyday moments, both in families and in the playroom, and why it leads to frustration, misinterpretation, and unrealistic expectations. When we expect children to "be reasonable," explain themselves, or regulate like adults, we're asking them to do something they are not developmentally capable of. This episode is a reminder that our role is to meet children where they are—not where we wish they could be—and to help parents understand this shift as well. When we can clearly articulate Adulthood Bias, it becomes one of the most powerful tools we have for advocating for children and explaining why CCPT works.