329 | Art of the Session: Empowerment Through Choice Giving

Episode summary

In this episode of the Art of the Session series, I focus on the second pillar of CCPT: choice giving. While limit-setting often leads to enforcement choices, empowerment choices are much rarer—and very powerful. Empowerment choices allow children to practice making decisions, accept responsibility for outcomes, and experience a sense of control in a world where adults dictate most of their lives.

I walk through examples of how to intentionally incorporate empowerment choices in session, from offering a child two types of paints to choosing between swords in a play battle. I also explain how choices can be woven into the session process itself—such as during transitions in and out of the playroom. Finally, I emphasize why the exact wording matters: "You can choose A, you can choose B, which do you choose?" The consistent use of the word choose three times makes it clear, powerful, and adherent to the model.