360 | CCPT Gamechangers: "Mom Said I'm Supposed To…" What You Do Next Matters

Episode summary

In this Game Changers episode, I tackle a common but tricky moment in the playroom—when a child walks in and says, "Mom said I'm supposed to…" or repeats a parent's explanation for why they're in therapy. I explain why this creates an immediate rupture in child-centeredness and how it threatens the therapist–child relationship by signaling that the therapist and parent are aligned in an agenda. I walk through exactly what to say in the moment, how to reflect content while reaffirming the child's freedom, and how to redirect the session back to CCPT principles without shaming or correcting the parent.

I also break down the broader prevention strategy: giving parents a specific script before therapy begins so they don't unintentionally introduce pressure, expectations, or agenda into the process. When parents go off-script—which they will—I explain how to address it gently with the child and directly with the parent, and how to provide the deeper "why" behind CCPT so parents feel reassured rather than dismissed. This is a subtle but powerful game changer: learning to protect the therapeutic relationship, maintain child-centeredness, and support parents' fears all at once.