366 | CCPT Gamechangers: Why 'You Wanted Me to Know' Isn't Truly Child-Centered

Episode summary

In this episode of the CCPT Game Changers series, I take a close look at a group of phrases I hear frequently in play sessions, such as "You wanted me to know…", "You wanted to tell me…", or "You wanted to show me…". While these statements may seem harmless, I explain how they subtly shift the focus away from the child and toward the therapist, which undermines true child-centeredness. Even small language choices matter when our goal is for the child to feel fully seen, heard, and understood.

I break down why simply tracking behavior, reflecting content, and reflecting feelings—without inserting ourselves into the response—keeps the child at the center of the relationship. This episode is about refining awareness, not calling out mistakes. With a few intentional language adjustments, we can strengthen attunement, preserve the therapeutic relationship, and more clearly communicate the core CCPT message: the child is the focus, the child is in charge, and the process can be trusted.