365 | Just Because They're Older Doesn't Mean We Change the Model

Episode summary

In this episode, I answer a thoughtful question about working with tweens and teens—particularly neurodivergent clients—and whether it's ever appropriate to "check in" verbally about things like school. I explain why, even with older children and adolescents, directly asking questions introduces an agenda, pulls the child into their head, and shifts us out of true child-centeredness. While play may look more activity-based and repetitive at this developmental stage, the core principles of CCPT remain exactly the same.

I also discuss why repetitive, competence-based play is both developmentally appropriate and therapeutically meaningful for tweens, teens, and children on the spectrum. Even when children don't verbalize their struggles, they are still working through confidence, emotional awareness, and relational skills in the playroom. When we trust the model, trust the child, and trust the process—without inserting topics or timelines—we preserve the outcomes we know CCPT produces. The moment we change the model, we no longer know the outcome.