154 | Mastering the Art of Limit-Setting: The Power of the "Pause" in Offering Perfectly Aligned Choices

Episode summary

In this episode, we get into the fine details of limit setting in play therapy sessions. I emphasize the importance of the "limit setting pause" – a crucial moment where we take a beat to understand the child's underlying emotions, needs, and motivations before setting a limit. By taking this pause, we can set limits and offer choices that truly resonate with the child's "why".

I share practical strategies to hone this skill, such as taking session notes to track the child's play themes and emotions and mental rehearsal—practicing limit-setting scenarios in our heads during routine activities like driving or exercising. This mental practice allows us to explore different "whys" behind a child's behavior and prepare effective reflections of feelings and appropriate choices.