352 | Power, Control, and Anxiety: Unpacking the Child's Need for Dominance

Episode summary

In this episode, I respond to Heather's question about a client who returned to therapy after a higher level of care. This child's play is dominated by themes of money, power, and control — and I explain how these themes often reflect underlying anxiety and a need to avoid vulnerability. I discuss how aggression frequently serves as a mask for powerlessness and how self-aggrandizing behaviors, like declaring oneself the "favorite," reveal deeper struggles with insecurity.

I also share guidance on handling personal items children bring into the playroom and why these items often carry emotional or thematic significance. Rather than setting limits, I explain how to view these objects as meaningful tools for expression and connection. Finally, I emphasize the importance of helping parents establish clear, consistent limits at home through CPRT principles, since true safety, security, and regulation for children can only develop within the structure of boundaries.