173 | Resistance or Control? Responding to 'Don't Talk to Me' Moments in Child-Centered Play Therapy

Episode summary

In this episode, I answer a question from Julia in New York about handling situations where a child tells us to "leave them alone" or "don't talk to me" during play therapy sessions. I explore two possible reasons for this behavior: resistance or power and control issues. I explain how to distinguish between these based on the child's tone and overall demeanor.

I discuss various strategies for responding to such requests, including pacing out responses, whispering, and explaining the purpose of our verbal interactions. I emphasize the importance of maintaining the full session time, even if the child expresses a desire to end early. I also touch on the concept of enlargement - helping children understand the emotions driving their behavior.