358 | CCPT Gamechangers: How a Language Shift Changes Everything in Feeling Reflections

Dec 2, 2025

In this first episode of the CCPT Game Changers series, I break down one of the smallest—but most transformative—shifts you can make in the playroom: how you phrase your feeling reflections. Many therapists unknowingly default to phrases like “that felt…” or “it seems like…” which subtly shift the focus away from the child and onto the circumstance. I explain why these versions dilute the power of the feeling reflection skill and why adhering to the simple, direct “You are…” structure preserves the child-centered nature of the model and strengthens long-term outcomes such as emotional vocabulary, emotional regulation, and self-awareness.

I also highlight how this tiny language pivot is actually a marker of high-level CCPT mastery. When you move beyond the basics and start recognizing the subtle phrases that creep in without awareness, you unlock a deeper level of attunement, clarity, and presence with the child. This episode challenges you to examine the nuance of your language, eliminate the “fluff,” and return every emotional reflection back to the child—exactly where CCPT is designed to keep the focus.

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Common References:

Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley.
VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press.
Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge.
Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781315537948
Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

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