198 | "I'm In Charge, and I Want You To Choose!" - What To Do When Kids Try To Make You Choose (Ninja Trick!)

Episode summary

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Linae in Colorado, who is working with a child that refuses to make choices during sessions. This is a common issue, as children often struggle with power and control, anxiety, or both, which can lead to resistance in making decisions. I explore how to identify the root cause of this behavior and offer strategies for reflecting feelings, narrating the situation, and using a subtle technique to return responsibility to the child without directly forcing a choice.

I also discuss the importance of reflecting on the underlying reasons for the child's discomfort with decision-making. Whether it's due to a lack of practice in making choices or an attempt to avoid the consequences that come with decision-making, understanding these motives can guide us in supporting the child through this process. This episode is packed with practical tips and a helpful "ninja trick" for therapists when navigating similar scenarios in their play therapy sessions.