113 | To Clean or Not to Clean: The Role of Playroom Cleanup in Child-Centered Play Therapy

Episode summary

In this episode, I answered questions raised by two listeners, Meredith and Katarina, about the role of cleaning up toys at the end of a play therapy session. Both wondered about the child-centered approach regarding this aspect. I highlighted my approach, established from the very first session, that it's the child's job to play and mine to tidy up. I emphasized that the child isn't expected to clean, giving them choices and observing their responses to this instruction, which often reveals emotional cues. I underlined why we follow this approach: it's a crucial part of the therapeutic process, showing the child that we hold their feelings and needs safely even when the session ends. By not making them clean up, we maintain the connection and trust established during the session. I discussed various scenarios of messy playrooms and clarified that the child never cleans up due to the importance of sustaining the therapeutic bond. Addressing the concern about parents seeing the messy room, I stressed the need for clear communication with parents from the outset, explaining the therapeutic reasoning behind not expecting the child to clean up. A story from a recent challenging session