169 | When a Child's Outbursts are Limited to Home: A Child-Centered Play Therapy Perspective

Episode summary

In this episode, I answer a question from Tammy in Canada about a 9-year-old child who is well-behaved in settings like school and sports, but has outbursts, hits parents, swears, and calls names when experiencing big emotions at home. The child then deals with a lot of shame afterwards.

I explain that when a child is dysregulated predominantly at home but regulated everywhere else, it usually means the child treats the people who provide the most unconditional love and acceptance the worst. It's like a pressure cooker - the child holds it together everywhere else but lets it all out at home because they feel safe to fall apart there, knowing their parents will love them anyway.