381 | When Kids Ask Questions in the Playroom: How CCPT Therapists Should Respond

Mar 12, 2026

In this episode, I answer a listener question about working with an inquisitive 11-year-old who frequently asks questions during sessions. Many child-centered play therapists struggle with how to respond when children ask for information, especially because the model encourages us to feign ignorance, avoid teaching, and return responsibility to the child. I explain why our adherence to the CCPT model should never be dictated by how a child reacts, even when frustration emerges. When a child becomes upset about not getting answers, that reaction is often revealing something important about their need for control, certainty, or responsibility—exactly the material that needs to surface in the playroom.

I also discuss how therapists can use clinical judgment when deciding whether to answer a child’s question. If the question is relational and aimed at getting to know the therapist, brief and appropriate answers can support connection. But when questions are driven by power, control, or a demand for certainty, we return responsibility rather than becoming the source of information. I clarify the appropriate use of “I wonder” statements as well, explaining that they should be reserved for moments when we genuinely need information from the child to participate in the play. Ultimately, the goal is to balance fidelity to the model with genuine, relational engagement so the playroom remains both child-centered and authentic.

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Common References:

  • Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley.
  • VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press.
  • Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge.
  • Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781315537948
  • Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.
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