291 | When Kids Assign You Roles: Staying Adherent to the CCPT Model During Role-Play Scenarios

Episode summary

In this episode, I answer a question from Amanda in Wisconsin about how to respond when a child assigns us a role in play and expects us to make choices—like picking a color or drawing freely—within that role. While the child offers "freedom," the session still feels tightly controlled, which raises the question: how do we honor the child's structure without stepping out of the CCPT model?

I walk through strategies like returning responsibility, using wonder and whisper techniques, and narrating your indecision without actually making a choice. I also explore how these moments often reflect deeper therapeutic work—like processing inflexibility, powerlessness, or real-world dynamics. When children give us space to choose, they're often inviting discomfort to process something meaningful. Our job is to stay neutral, attuned, and adherent—because therapeutic value is happening beneath the surface.