Questions & Answers

373 | Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, and Fear of Vulnerability

373 | Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, and Fear of Vulnerability

In this episode, I respond to a question about a nine-year-old who presents as mature, responsible, and “put together,” yet shows strong perfectionistic and people-pleasing tendencies in session. I unpack what is often happening beneath that polished exterior — faking...

371 | OCD Behaviors in Children: What We’re Really Treating in CCPT

371 | OCD Behaviors in Children: What We’re Really Treating in CCPT

In this episode, I address a topic I’ve been getting more and more questions about: children who present with obsessive or compulsive behaviors that mirror OCD. I explain why I feel OCD is often not an appropriate childhood diagnosis and why these behaviors are best...

369 | Understanding Time and Touch in Child-Centered Play Therapy

369 | Understanding Time and Touch in Child-Centered Play Therapy

In this episode, I answer two questions that touch on both the clinical and relational demands of child-centered play therapy. First, I address why the average number of CCPT sessions has shifted over time from 20–30 to more commonly 30–40 sessions. I share my...

367 | Night Terrors, Adoption, and Age-Appropriate Truth

367 | Night Terrors, Adoption, and Age-Appropriate Truth

In this episode, I respond to a question about a six-year-old client with a history of early instability who has experienced recurring night terrors. I explain why night terrors are not always trauma-based and how frequency, intensity, and impact on daily functioning...

365 | Just Because They’re Older Doesn’t Mean We Change the Model

365 | Just Because They’re Older Doesn’t Mean We Change the Model

In this episode, I answer a question about working with tweens and teens—particularly neurodivergent clients—and whether it’s ever appropriate to “check in” verbally about things like school. I explain why, even with older children and adolescents, directly asking...

363 | Reducing Attrition by Preparing Parents for Resistance

363 | Reducing Attrition by Preparing Parents for Resistance

In this episode, I respond to Elliott’s question about children who strongly resist play therapy from the very beginning and parents who eventually give up and terminate early. I explain why early resistance is not a red flag for CCPT failure, but often a clear...

359 | Mobile Play Therapy Challenges: Keeping Kids in the Play Space

359 | Mobile Play Therapy Challenges: Keeping Kids in the Play Space

In this episode, I answer Andrea’s question about providing CCPT in a client’s home and navigating the challenges that arise when the play space isn’t a traditional playroom. In mobile or in-home CCPT, the environment itself can make limit-setting and structure...

355 | Costumes, Playroom Essentials, and First-Person vs. Third-Person

355 | Costumes, Playroom Essentials, and First-Person vs. Third-Person

In this episode, I answer two great listener questions from Mikaela in Illinois. First, we dive into costumes in the playroom—what’s essential, how to think creatively with limited space, and how to make costume play meaningful for kids without overloading your...

353 | Selective Mutism and CCPT: Trusting the Process

353 | Selective Mutism and CCPT: Trusting the Process

In this episode, I respond to Erin’s question about working with a selectively mute child. I explain that selective mutism isn’t a separate diagnosis—it’s rooted in paralyzing anxiety. Once we understand that, we can approach it with CCPT through safety, trust, and...

350 | Two Common Challenges: Self-Esteem Work and Separation Anxiety

350 | Two Common Challenges: Self-Esteem Work and Separation Anxiety

In this episode, I respond to two questions from Megan in D.C.—one about navigating self-esteem work and another about handling separation anxiety in school settings. I explain how to respond when a child asks for praise or directs you to say something specific, such...

348 | When Families Stop Coming: Understanding Attrition in CCPT

348 | When Families Stop Coming: Understanding Attrition in CCPT

In this episode, I respond to Sally’s question about attendance and attrition in Child-Centered Play Therapy. Many therapists are noticing families stop coming around the fifth or sixth session, and I explain why this usually reflects a breakdown in articulation. When...